As it turns out, having this schedule, all these things to do, was the problem all along. I've cleaned my closet, I've cleared out and bleached the fridge. I've spread mulch and watched tulips push their way out of the soil in the garden. I've kept my appointments and made lunch plans. I've stepped up when the nanny was ill and attended school events (including one for a neighbor kid when both his parents were working). I've called my parents, I've spent the day in Brooklyn with long-neglected friends. I've kept busy.
And I feel a panic similar to the panic I felt while working, that there aren't enough hours in the day for all of these obligations. That if I don't get up now, I will waste the best part of the day, where there is a moment of silence, and the obligations will come crashing in. In my obsession with keeping myself busy to fend off the depression everyone promised (myself included!) would follow quitting a job which consumed the vast majority of my life energy for the three years I worked at it -- as well as the three years I trained for it -- I neglected what my soul was telling me as it ached to just quit in the first place.
I want to be in charge of my own life. I want solitude and quiet. I want to drop out, and indulge my hermitous nature, even just a little bit. I like time alone. Not this kind of alone I've had since quitting, where I sit in a coffee shop in Chelsea, surrounded by people, noise, and perpetual motion. But the alone of stillness, and silence.
That is the kind of alone that brought me to yoga ten years ago. (And which, unsurprisingly, now that I think of it, I have not found in one single yoga class in Manhattan or Brooklyn, or suburban New York City. I went to yoga to change the shape of my life, not the shape of my butt, so how could a class aimed at the latter accomplish the former? Thank you, Julia Roberts, for that little insight.)
Maybe it is true that opposites attract after all, for I find myself surrounded by people who grow concerned when I go entire days without speaking to another human in person (which has not actually happened since this day, and before that, who even knows when -- maybe sometime during law school?). No one believes me when I say I love those kind of days. Or, even if they believe me, it still concerns them. Not normal, I suppose. Am I really so alone in my desire to be alone?